I have four kids, but lately it’s my five year old daughter who’s been the most challenging.
She’s playful, curious and clever.
She’s also energetic, impulsive, and self centred.
In other words, she can be a huge pain in the butt sometimes!
And when she gets on my nerves (it’s as if she’s doing it on purpose, I swear!) there’s this temptation to think that there’s something wrong with her.
To think that she’s to much this, and not enough that.
I get stuck in my thoughts and swept away by concern.
I can’t help but wonder and worry that I’m doing something wrong.
But, here’s the catch, the more I worry, the more I focus on her behaviour, the more likely I am to react.
So instead of getting caught up on who I think she needs to be, how I think she should behave, it’s imperative that we look at our kids for what they really are….
Sure, she’s looking at me as she innocently wipes her wet hands on the drapes, just 3 seconds after I asked her not to…
But it’s not because there’s something wrong with her (but for the record, there is definitely something wrong with what she’s doing!).
She’s just doing what kids do best, push boundaries to see what effect they can have on the world.
Like little scientist, your kids are learning about themselves based on how YOU react.
So the key is to be able to separate my daughter’s actions from her essence; a playful, clever and curious kid.
Yah, but it just pisses me off soooo much!!
I know it does.
So I’d like to invite you to join me for a free, live class where I will teach you WHY it’s so hard to NOT snap, and I’ll teach you 4 things you can do to stay calm, and kindly respond when your kids push your buttons.
I’ll be hosting the class via zoom on March 21st at 8:30pm Israel/2:30pm EST.
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